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All forms of abuse can be really difficult to endure, but we know that survivors of sexual abuse are often hesitant to talk about it even if they have previously opened up to a friend, counselor or Hotline advocate about other forms of abuse.If you are in an abusive relationship and your partner has ever pressured or forced you to do anything sexually that you were not comfortable with or did not actively consent to, that is considered sexual abuse.

One of the most helpful things you can do if you are in a relationship that is abusive in any way is to make a safety plan.If you do pose for or take photos or videos, try to keep your face and any other identifying information like birthmarks, scars or tattoos out of them.Even the background of a picture can be identifying, so be aware of your surroundings when possible.If your partner refuses to use or let you use birth control, tries to get pregnant or get you pregnant without your consent or tries to force you to have or not have an abortion, those are all forms of reproductive coercion.If you’re concerned about pregnancy, STIs or HIV/AIDS talk to your doctor, and do whatever makes you feel safest.A safety plan is a living thing, so it’s important to update, change or adapt it whenever necessary.

Your safety is our number one priority here at the Hotline, so we believe that no matter what you have to do to stay safe, it’s worth doing.

Your body is yours, and whether it’s the first time or the hundredth time, whether it’s a hook up, a committed relationship or even a marriage, you are never obligated to give consent even if you have done so in the past. A person can decide to stop any activity at any time, for any reason.

If you don’t feel safe saying “no” then you have no room to say “yes.” If your partner pouts and begs until you finally say yes, that’s not consent.

Your sexual orientation and gender identity are yours, and you get to choose whether to disclose them or not, as well as who you tell.

If your partner is threatening to out you (or refusing to let you come out) if you don’t have sex, that is abuse. There’s nothing wrong with safe and consensual sexual activities that involve an element of bondage, pain or submission, as long as the relationship itself is healthy and respectful.

If you want to find someone in your community to talk to about your relationship call or chat with us now.