Ex dating soon after breakup
I really enjoy his company a lot, but I never really thought of him as boyfriend material.
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In the meantime, I’ve been friends with this really nice (but four years younger, I’m 30) guy (who seems to be a nice mix of alpha/beta) that I met through a class I took.
He’s been asking me to go out to some events with him, plans ahead, already asked me out for valentine’s day??
I have had a conversation with the new guy, and he is understanding and patient – but I also don’t want to keep him hanging on. But I applaud you for getting out there instead of pining away for a guy who demonstrated his lack of integrity by going straight into the arms of your friend. And then, when it comes time to step things up, they bail because they weren’t “really” ready to be committed for life. These are not bad people; they are driven by their emotions and are doing the best they can.
I find myself doubting all my feelings, not least because of the betrayal that I am still processing. Dear Susan, Thanks for the smart and self-aware email. There are two issues here that I want to address separately: I take a pretty cerebral approach to dating, but ultimately, relationships are about what’s in your heart. Is it generally a risky bet to date someone on the rebound? But do people on the rebound fall in love every day? Ultimately, you will never know what kind of relationship you have on your hands until you let down your guard and stop keeping him at arm’s length.
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